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Sep 12, 2011 3:40pm
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Angolan beauty crowned Miss Universe
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Miss Angola 2011: The Second Black African Woman to Win Miss Universe Crown (PHOTOS)
By IBTimes Staff Reporter | Sep 13, 2011
Leila Lopes is the second black African woman and the fourth black woman in the world to win the Miss Universe title. Lopes is also the first ever from her home country Angola to get crowned “Miss Universe.”
Mpule Kwelagobe of Botswana was the first black African to win Miss Universe title in 1999. Janelle Commissiong of Trinidad & Tobago became the first woman of African descent to be crowned Miss Universe, in 1977.
‘Libertylessness’ wrecks marriages, threatens nation’s future
"Literary sludge insults child abduction issue"
'Arnie complained about his sexless marriage': Sordid details of how Schwarzenegger's affair with housekeeper first began
By DAILY MAIL REPORTER
Last updated at 4:36 PM on 25th May 2011
'Patty said Arnold had been complaining that his marriage was sexless and Maria was never around, flying all over the world for her TV news job.
Husband must pay up for sexless marriage. Is that a win?
By Brian Alexander
updated 9/7/2011 4:32:23 PM ET
It sounds like the opening line of a joke: French wife sues her ex-husband over his refusal to, uh, perform during their marriage. But the widely publicized lack-of-passion lawsuit raises the question: How much is marital sex worth?
Undercover story of the sexless marriage
It's normal for sex to peter out between couples after a baby or surgery
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What happens when desire between couples goes to sleep? Lucy Atkins on the problems - and solutions
When Carole T, a 51-year-old from Essex, wrote to Weekend's problem page saying that her husband had not made love to her since she was 38, agony aunt Ruby Wax's advice was basically "grin and bear it".
This, as our bulging postbag attests, is easier said than done. So, what do the experts say? Can a sexless relationship ever be successful, or is it always doomed to misery and frustration?
There is no solid evidence to show how many people are living in sexless marriages, but in her bestselling book, The Sex-Starved Marriage, Michele Weiner Davis cites research indicating that around one in 20 couples are making love fewer than 10 times a year.
She believes that these marriages, while not exactly doomed, are certainly on shaky ground. Paula Hall, sex and relationships therapist with Relate and founder of therelationshipspecialists.com, agrees: "A sexless marriage is fine as long as both people are happy with it. Unfortunately, this is rare."
Advice on the Sexless Marriageアメリカのセクスレスカップルに比べるとアメリカのセクスレスカプルの方が多い。
Approximately one of every five married couples is struggling to cope with a low-sex or no-sex marriage, according to some experts. Often, the male is the partner who has lost interest in sex.
UK Dating Site Caters To Sexless Relationships
READ MORE: asexual, companionship, friendship, impotence, online dating
From The Times Via Fox News
By Rosemary Bennett
For anyone looking for sex, the Internet is often the first stop, with its array of dating sites and chat rooms devoted to the subject.
It is probably the last place that those seeking a celibate relationship would consider looking.
However, an online dating agency has been launched for those seeking intimacy without intercourse.
Platonicpartners.co.uk says that it will help the silent minority of adults seeking "celibate, platonic, non-physical or partly physical relationships" and help them to find a mate.
The site was founded by Susie King, a former life coach, who was moved to set up the forum after a close friend attempted suicide because of his sexual impotence. He did not want a future without a loving relationship.
Hachi-machi. This asexual trend is really gaining ground. We did a Dish on this on September 14th and read an old article in Esquire on it. And we couldn’t help but wonder why the world is turning into Morrissey. The article above mentions impotence as a reason for joining an asexual network or dating site. That makes some sense. Though modern medicine (mostly focused on combating impotency, as far as we can tell) has done a reasonably good job of curing most forms of impotence. So, now there are places people can go if they want companionship and don’t want to ‘do the deed’ or just can’t.
Are you trapped in a semi-happy marriage?
By Celine Naughton
Friday Sep 9 2011
Bill, a man in his late forties, and his wife are avowed 'best friends.' "I'm in a buddy-buddy, sexless marriage," he says. "We co-own a company and have kids, which is why we stay together. It's not too bad.
We don't argue or raise voices and we have created a safe and secure environment for the kids. We share the same interests and split child-rearing and housework 50:50.
"My only complaint about the lack of sex is that she will not agree to an open marriage and she tells me that if I go to prostitutes or have an affair she will dissolve the company, kick me out of the house and take the kids. So if I actively sought out sex with someone and got caught, I would lose everything, including my job, and at my age it's too late to start over."
Bill is just one of the many people featured in Pamela Haag's new book, Marriage Confidential, a revealing exposé of relationships which lifts the net curtain on contemporary coupledom.
Following extensive research and interviews, Haag concludes that the vast majority of married couples are neither ecstatic nor downright dysfunctional. Most of us coast along in what she calls "semi-happy, low-conflict" unions that seem fine on the surface, but aren't what either partner would call really happy.
And while many trade bliss for the comforts of married life, others push the boundaries of traditional marriage in ways that don't quite untie the knot, but definitely unravel it.
Take Simone, for instance, a married woman who connected online with a man in a political chat room.
They wrote back and forth and, as Haag describes it, betrayal happened in "small, accumulating rivulets". They began spinning erotic scenarios. Simone's married sex life was stale and this gave her the opportunity to enjoy a much richer fantasy life than she shared with her husband.
Haag quotes Noel Biderman, founder of Ashley Madison, an online service which caters to married people who want to have affairs with other married people. "Why are women in their forties the fastest growing part of Facebook?" he says. "Because they're looking for old loves."
"Life is short. Have an affair," urges the home page of Ashley Madison, which boasts over 10 million members who can explore such listings as being in control, giving up control, observing, role playing, sex toys, spanking, tickling with feathers and more.
Not surprisingly, the effects on the spouse who discovers a cyber affair are as devastating as the real thing. Haag quotes a 39-year-old wife, married for 14 years, whose husband had affairs, "although not physically. He had affairs of the mind, and that to me is as much a violation as if he actually had a physical affair with someone. In one sense it's worse: My husband can, at any time, have an 'affair' without leaving the house or seeing another human being".
Then there are the partners who stray for real, like Scott, a married man in his early fifties who is a detective and has had a mistress for two years. His wife has a "European" sensibility, he says, and knows that affairs are within the boundaries of their marriage but doesn't want to hear about it. They have what Haag describes as a classic Don't Ask, Don't Tell marriage.
As does Madeline, who occasionally has flings with women and says her husband doesn't mind. "As lovers, women evidently are seen as less of a threat to the marriage," says Haag, "a tolerance that also may have something to do with the fact that the idea of women together titillates many a husbandly heterosexual imagination."
While the couples Haag interviewed were mostly from the United States, she suspects similar scenarios are happening over here.
"Western European countries have pushed the envelope on alternatives to marriage more dramatically than the US," she says. "It's not uncommon in France, the UK, Ireland and Scandinavian countries for partners to define their relationship as a committed, co-parenting relationship, even if they don't bother to get married. They maintain a committed relationship for child-rearing, so the child gets the benefits of stability, but outside of the bonds of marriage. That's very similar to Americans, who tend to define marriage more as parenting relationships these days. I call children the 'new spouses' in my book for this very reason: they become the centre of a committed relationship."
Cybersex examined by UNB Fredericton student
CBC News Posted: Sep 12,
"Most people are saying cybersex is something that is interactive, involves at least two people and it has to happen in real time," she said.
Her second study looked at gender similarities and differences. Her results showed most people engaged in some form of cybersex, ranging from viewing erotic material to maintaining sexual relationships.
She said she was surprised that in the relatively anonymous world of the world wide web, men and women behaved as they often do offline:
83 per cent of men viewed sexually explicit videos or photographs online
31 per cent of women viewed sexually explicit videos or photographs online
On average, men and women engaged in cybersex two to three times a month
Shaughnessy won the 2010 International Academy of Sex Research's best student manuscript for her research
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Christians in China: Is the country in spiritual crisis?
By Tim Gardam
Radio 4's God in China
It is impossible to say how many Christians there are in China today, but no-one denies the numbers are exploding.
The government says 25 million, 18 million Protestants and six million Catholics. Independent estimates all agree this is a vast underestimate. A conservative figure is 60 million. There are already more Chinese at church on a Sunday than in the whole of Europe.
What must unsettle the authorities most is the reason why so many are turning to the churches.
I heard people talking again and again of a "spiritual crisis" in China - a phrase that has even been used by the Premier Wen Jiao Bao. The old have seen the old certainties of Marxism-Leninism transmute into the most visceral capitalist society on earth.
For the young, in the stampede to get rich, trust in institutions, between individuals, between the generations, is breaking down.
As one of China's most eminent philosophers of religion - Professor He Guanghu, at Renmin University in Beijing put it to me: "The worship of Mammon… has become many people's life purpose.
"I think it is very natural that many other people will not be satisfied... will seek some meaning for their lives so that when Christianity falls into their lives, they will seize it very tightly."
Chemotherapy breakthrough could could dramatically reduce side-effects
Scientists have developed 'smart-bomb chemotherapy' which can isolate and destroy tumours without damaging healthy cells
Alok Jha, science correspondent
The Guardian, Monday 12 September 2011
Cancer researchers have developed a "smart bomb" treatment that can target tumours with drugs while leaving healthy body cells intact. The technique means that patients will suffer fewer side-effects from the toxic drugs used in chemotherapy.
The side-effects of cancer therapy – including hair loss, nausea and suppression of the immune system – can be debilitating. In many cases, the effects of the drugs can contribute to the ultimate cause of death.